I’m 37 this year. Not that old (to me!), but not too young either. So far, life has been pretty good to me – 2 beautiful kids, a supportive husband, parents and siblings who help out, friends whom I can count on, and a stable job. I’ve a lot to be thankful for. 🙂
That said, life has not always been smooth-sailing, but with every bump, I take with me a life lesson. Here are 37 things that I’ve learnt along the way, in no particular order:
1. Laugh a lot
I’ve been called a joker’s joy for the fact that I laugh easily and heartily. Corny jokes? Bring it on! Seriously, finding something to laugh about everyday lightens the heart.
Take time to relax and recharge.
3. Don’t regret
Learn from mistakes and move on. Stewing in regrets and what might have been hold you back even more.
4. Appreciate what you have
Find something to be thankful for everyday. Put it down in writing.
5. Slow down
My secondary school principal used to chide late-comers: “Wake up early so you do not need to rush. Rushing everyday will give you a heart attack.” It’s true, slowing down your pace consciously does help you to relax.
6. Say thank you to family
More often than not, we take family members for granted. Showing appreciation by saying a simple “thank you” goes a long way.
7. Family is always priority
Work is work. It will never be done. Family comes first.
8. Be kind, not right
Sometimes it’s better just to be kind, even if you are right.
9. There is no perfect parent
We are all learning. No one knows for sure (even those who write parenting books!).
10. Life is short – make each moment count
We often go through life thinking that there will be another day. Sometimes, there won’t. And you would probably not have advance notice.
11. Listen to your children
Stop to listen to your children when they want to tell you every little detail. If you don’t have time for them now, they won’t have time for you when they grow up.
12. Sharing is caring
Be generous. What goes around, comes around.
13. Cry if you need to
For me, holding back tears is one of the worst feelings. Have a good cry if you need to, it releases pent-up emotions. Then wipe your tears, smile, and move on.
14. Take pictures, and videos
Take loads of pictures with loved ones, not only of your children.
15. Try something different
Do something different, take a risk. If you don’t try, you’ll never know.
16. Play like a child
Being an adult doesn’t mean that we cannot have fun. Indulge in simple joys.
Don’t be afraid to show that you do not know.
18. Be prepared to work hard
Nothing comes free. If you want results, you need to work for it.
19. Listen to your heart
Trust your gut feeling. More often than not, it’s telling you what you need to know.
20. Break down actions into small steps
And celebrate each achievement, no matter how insignificant it may seem.
21. Stick to your principles
Do what you think is right. Don’t compromise.
22. Don’t judge by appearances
As the adage goes, appearances can be deceiving. I’ve worked in a bank. The person who was dressed most humbly had the biggest bank account.
23. You don’t need to follow the crowd
I’m old enough to think for myself. I do not need to have to do something just because the rest of the world is doing so.
24. Don’t trust everything you see/hear on the internet/tv/FB
Sensationalism sells. Take all information given with a pinch of salt.
25. Drink more water
I was given the advice to drink at least 2 litres of water every day (plain water, not coke/coffee/tea). It really helps to detoxify.
26. Trust people
Open your heart. It’s sad when you find that you are not able to believe in anyone.
Say sorry, and mean it.
28. Say what you feel
Don’t expect others to read your mind. If it matters, voice it out (or write it down).
29. Learn to say “No”
You can’t please everyone all the time.
30. You do not need many friends, a few good ones are enough
You don’t need thousands of friends on Facebook. Know who are the ones you can count on.
31. Enjoy your food
I’m a foodie, and I live to eat. Savour your favourite food (in moderate amounts of course).
32. Don’t compare
You don’t really know what they have gone through to get there.
33. Time heals
Yes, it does. Even if it doesn’t seem so now.
34. Save for rainy days
Put aside a fixed amount each month. Spend wisely, but don’t forget to indulge yourself once in a while. 😉
35. Don’t procrastinate
Just do it.
36. Learn from mistakes, forgive yourself.
To err is human. Just make sure not to repeat it.
37. Love yourself
You are special. Love yourself, and treat yourself right 🙂
Of course, these are but a few of the lessons. I’m still learning everyday!
What are some of the life lessons you’ve learnt?